Getting Your Pink Back: A Postpartum Guide to Rest, Routine, and Renewal

A symbol of hope

It's time for moms everywhere to get their pink back! The recent TikTok trend, with over 5 million videos, has deeply resonated with moms worldwide. Flamingos lose their vibrant pink while caring for their young, as the energy and nutrients they consume leave little room for maintaining their signature color. But over time, as the birds return to their normal routines and diets, their pink returns.

For moms, this metaphor is a powerful reminder that the challenges of early parenthood—exhaustion, identity shifts, and emotional upheaval—are not permanent. With time, self-care, and support, your vibrancy will come back.

The science behind postpartum transformation

Research has confirmed what so many moms feel deep down: the postpartum period brings profound changes to both body and mind. As Dr. Catherine Birndorf explained for The New York Times, “You can lose yourself to motherhood... you lose time, sleep, connection with the outside world, and temporarily, you may feel disconnected from who you were.”

This isn’t just emotional—it’s biological. The fourth trimester is marked by significant hormonal shifts, including drops in estrogen and progesterone, which can affect mood, energy levels, and even cognitive function. Add that to the physical demands of caring for a newborn, and it’s no wonder many moms feel like they’ve lost a piece of themselves.

But again, there’s a silver lining: this stage is only temporary. Just as flamingos regain their pink hue over time, moms too can reclaim their sense of self.

Finding Your Way Back Through Rest

At Napper, we believe rest is more than just sleep—it’s about finding moments of peace, structure, and self-care in the chaos of parenthood. As the discussion on social media around “getting your pink back” grows, we want to shine a light on how mothers can rediscover themselves through small, intentional actions. Here's how to start:

1. Stick to a gentle routine

It's tempting to let everyone sleep in late or abandon structure on tough days, but a consistent wake-up time and morning ritual can set a positive tone. Whether it's a quick stretch, a warm cup of tea, or five minutes of deep breathing, a little consistency can help moms feel more in control of their day.

Why it works:

• Predictability helps reduce stress and anxiety, giving you a sense of control.

• Small rituals create moments of calm in an otherwise chaotic day.

Napper's Tips: Start small. Even a 5-minute morning routine can make a big difference.

2. Prioritize rest without guilt

Society often praises mothers for running on empty, but true wellness starts with rest. Quality rest isn't a luxury—it's a necessity for both physical and emotional recovery. As one Napper mom shared, "Taking that 20-minute nap while baby sleeps instead of doing dishes literally saved my sanity."

Why it works:

• Sleep deprivation can weaken your immune system, increase stress hormones, and even affect your ability to think clearly.

• Rest helps regulate mood and reduces the risk of postpartum depression and anxiety.

Napper's Tips: Let go of the guilt. Rest isn’t a luxury—it’s a necessity for both you and your baby.

3. Rediscover what sparks joy

Many moms who are "getting your pink back" have found that returning to former hobbies, moving their bodies, or even dressing up in something that makes them feel good helps them reconnect with themselves. These small actions can have profound effects on maternal well-being and self-identity.

Why it works:

• Engaging in activities you love can boost your mood and provide a sense of accomplishment.

• Exercise releases endorphins, which can improve mood and energy levels.

Napper’s Tips: Start with something small, like reading a chapter of a book (if that's your thing) or taking a short walk.

4. Build your support system

Motherhood can feel isolating, but connection is key. Finding a community—whether online, through local groups, or among fellow moms at the playground—can remind you that you're not alone in this journey. Sharing experiences, venting, and uplifting each other makes all the difference.

Why it works:

• Connecting with others who understand your struggles can reduce feelings of loneliness and stress.

• Your village can offer advice, babysitting, or even just a listening ear.

Napper’s Tips: This month, take a moment, no matter how brief, to connect with another parent whether online or in person. A small moment of connection can make a world of difference. 

5. Give yourself grace

Getting your pink back isn't about bouncing back to who you were before motherhood—it's about evolving into a version of yourself that feels whole and fulfilled. Some days might be more difficult than others, and that's okay. Progress, not perfection, is the goal.

Why it works:

• Being kind to yourself during this transition can reduce stress and improve mental health.

• Research has shown that small, consistent steps lead to lasting change.

Napper’s Tips: Every now and then, jot down a few words to track progress and celebrate small wins.

A Note of Encouragement

Remember that just like those resilient flamingos, your vibrancy will return. As Dr. Birndorf reassures, "This is not an indictment on the rest of your life. You will feel joy again. You will have stability. You will feel regulated again."

At Napper, we want to remind all parents that they deserve rest, care, and the space to feel like themselves again. Whether you're just beginning to get in the groove or fully finding your "pink," we're here to support you—one well-rested moment at a time.